When you are a new mother, and especially when you are a first time mother, you are in situations daily, if not hourly at first, that are completely new to you. You have read about what to expect and what you need to do, but no amount of books, magazines or articles can prepare you for what it truly feels like to have just given birth to a child and to now being a mother.
So of course you will be nervous and anxious about whether or not you will be able to do everything right… all new mothers are and that is completely natural. In fact, a small portion of nerves are a good thing – they keep us on our toes.
Like most new mothers, I often found myself worrying about whether or not I was doing everything right when the kids were first born. When they were a couple of weeks old, I was on the phone to a friend of my husbands’, a father of two children of 4 and 6 at the time. I told him about the kids and must have said something about not always knowing what was right and he then gave me a piece of advice that is still with me today and the only piece of advice I ever felt I could really use in my everyday life as a mother.
He said ‘Just remember that you’re the one who actually know your kids. Everybody else are just talking in general terms or about what was right for their own children’.
And he was right! Why was I wondering whether it was the right thing to do to feed both kids their bottles at the same time rather than one then the other? Why was I wondering whether it was right to not have them sleeping outside in the pram when I felt they didn’t sleep well in it? And so on… I wanted to do what I felt was right for MY children and what seemed to make THEM happy and content, so why was I even listening to the floods of opinions from EVERYBODY else? Everybody else didn’t know my children… only I did.
After that day I stopped second guessing myself and I started doing only what I felt suited MY children the best. And what happy, easy and content babies they were… and still are.